Depressed

In the Name of Allah, the Most Gracious, the Most Merciful.

As-salāmu ‘alaykum wa-rahmatullāhi wa-barakātuh.

The inner feelings and conditions of every human being vary from time to time.  Sometimes one feels very happy and excited while at other times one feels sad and unpleasant.  This is part of life. This should not cause one to lose hope and become despondent.

Pondering over the blessings and favors of Allāh upon you will give you internal contentment and satisfaction. Think of the blessings allotted to you by Allāh Ta’ālā that have not been granted to others. There are so many people who cannot see, hear, or talk. Imagine if Allāh did not bestow us with these faculties, how straitened life would become.  Every time you drink a cold glass of water, know that there are people who are struggling to acquire a single sip. Thereafter praise Allāh for favoring you with such bounties. This will create the love of Allāh within your heart and you will feel content and satisfied.  This is a prescription given by Allāh Ta’ālāHimself to Nabī Sallallāhu A’laihi Wa Sallam in the Qurān.  Almighty Allāh Ta’ālā says:

وَلَقَدْ نَعْلَمُ أَنَّكَ يَضِيقُ صَدْرُكَ بِمَا يَقُولُونَ () فَسَبِّحْ بِحَمْدِ رَبِّكَ وَكُنْ مِنَ السَّاجِدِينَ (سورة الحجر، رقم الاية 97-98)

And We know that your heart feels distressed for what they say.  So proclaim the purity and glory of your Rabb and be among those who prostrate.

(Qurān 15:97-98)

 

Consider taking out some time daily and sitting in seclusion for the Dhikr (remembrance of Allāh). On a daily basis, set a time wherein you recite the Kalimah Lā Ilāh Illallāh.  Think of the might and grandeur of Allāh Ta’ālā while doing Dhikr.  Have conviction in your heart that each time you recite the Kalimah Allāh Ta’ālā is filling your heart with divine light. Through the Dhikr of Allāh, Allāh Ta’ālā will give you contentment of heart.  Allāh Ta’ālā says in the Qurān:

أَلَا بِذِكْرِ اللَّهِ تَطْمَئِنُّ الْقُلُوبُ (سورة الرعد، رقم الاية 28)

Behold! The hearts find peace through the remembrance of Allāh.

 (Qurān 13:28)

 
Lastly, have confidence in yourself.  Keep your spirits high. Involve yourself in those permissible activities that you enjoy. 

We ask Allāh Ta’ālā to grant you happiness and success in both the worlds. Amīn.

And Allah Ta’āla Knows Best

Mawlana Abdul Azīm bin Abdur Rahman,
Student Darul Iftaa
US

 

Checked and Approved by,
Mufti Ebrahim Desai.

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The Treatment of Anxiety and Worries

By Sheikh Saleh ibn Abdullah ibn Humaid – 29 Jumaadal Ulaa 1436

His Eminence Sheikh Saleh ibn Abdullah ibn Humaid –May Allah protect him– delivered this Friday khutbah titled “The Treatmentof Anxietyand Worries” in which he talked about anxiety, sleeplessness, worries and distress and how Islam treated them. He explained the necessity of resorting, in such cases, to Allah Almighty, imploring Him and putting oneself in His hands.As a result, all such worries and distress will go away.

Praise be to Allah in His Exaltedness, Sovereignty, and Grandeur! May He be sanctified in His Glory, Majesty and Sublimity! Abundant, blessed and pure praise is duly His! He bequeathed upon us favours from His benevolence, generosity and beneficence. I thank Him –May He be exalted– and ask him for more favours and benevolence. I bear witness that there is no deity except Allah alone with no associate. With such testimony I wish to gain success on the day I stand before Him. I also bear witness that our Master and Prophet,Muhammad, is the best and Seal of His Messengers. May Allah send His Salaah (Graces, Honours, Mercy), Peace and Blessing upon him, his family, Companions, supporters and the taabicīn (the contemporaries of the Companions of the Prophet [May Allah’s Salaah and Peace be upon him] after his death) and all those who followed in their footsteps until the Day of Recompense!

Now then,
I exhort you –people– as well as myself to observe taqwaa (fear of disobeying Allah). Observe Taqwa –May Allah have mercy on your souls– as much as you can. The favours Almighty Allah bestowed upon you are plentiful enough to dwarf your ability to show gratitude to Him. A Warner (Prophet) came unto you to deliver his admonition; if only you would listen!

Observe Taqwa of Allah, for it is the best means of protection. It is the object of competition and contestation. You must know Allah’s decree that everything will eventually come to an end, that every traveller must someday return, and that every deed has its due reward. You are destined to meet your Lord, travel the same route as your predecessors, and stand before the One from Whom no secret is hidden. “Draws near for mankind their reckoning, while they turn away in heedlessness.” [Al-Anbiyaa’: 1]

O Muslims!

Allah created mankind from a single soul:

“O mankind! Be dutiful to your Lord, Who created you from a single person (Adam), and from him (Adam) He created his wife [Hawwa (Eve)].”[Al-Nisaa’: 1]

A single soul, with the divine grace and the might of Allah, may acquire attributes, carry features, and experience situations that enable it to contend with desires, suspicious whims, beloved and abhorred things:

“And by Nafs (Adam or a person or a soul, etc.), and Him Who perfected him in proportion; Then He showed him what is wrong for him and what is right for him; Indeed he succeeds who purifies his ownself (i.e. obeys and performs all that Allâh ordered, by following the true Faith of Islâmic Monotheism and by doing righteous good deeds). And indeed he fails who corrupts his ownself (i.e. disobeys what Allâh has ordered by rejecting the true Faith of Islâmic Monotheism or by following polytheism, etc. or by doing every kind of evil wicked deeds).”[Al-Shams: 7-10]; “Have We not made for him a pair of eyes? And a tongue and a pair of lips? And shown him the two ways (good and evil)?”[Al-Balad: 8-10]

Servants of Allah!

The Holy Qur’aan has accorded great importance to the human soul because the human being is the target of guidance, orientation and reform.

He who has been guided by Almighty Allah to embrace Islam and whose heart is filled with belief will enjoy quiescence and have a tranquil soul and peace of mind.

“He it is Who sent down As-Sakinah (calmness and tranquillity) into the hearts of the believers, that they may grow more in Faith along with their (present) Faith.”[Al-FatH: 4]; “and whoever follows My Guidance, there shall be no fear on them, nor shall they grieve.”[Al- Baqarah: 38]

It is mentioned in the following Hadith: “Faith fettersruthless action. A believer never actsruthlessly.” [Narrated by Abu Dawood]

Allah is Great! Servants of Allah! How many a Muslim upon whom worldly worries have closed in has performed ablutions, moved to a corner in his home, walked to the mosque.

Recited chapters from the Holy Qur’aan, or performed prayers; as a result, his worries subsided and he felt freed fromthe fetters!

How many a Muslim lying in bed on his dextral side, reciting verses from the Holy Qur’aan, orbrought to memory some of the Prophet’s supplications enjoyed a good night’s sleep,and felt protected by Allah Almighty!

How many a Muslim burdened with worries and concerns has sought calmness in Allah’s words, and found in them the best friend and companion!

How many a Muslim went hungry or was struck by penury has found in Allah’s Book his fill and riches!

How many a rich man was about to go astray because of his wealth, but was saved by Verses from the Book of his Lord, so when the veil was removed, he remembered Allah’s graces and wished for what Allah had for him!

The good, the kind-hearted, the benefactors and mosque-goers appreciate the tranquillityresulting fromremembering Allah. They have more strength, and more ability to face up to the calamities and ups and downs of life.Their tranquillity is not disturbed by vicissitudes, and their peace of mind remains unimpaired by impediments.

O Muslims!

Such is the status of the believers and the devout,while millions are runningafterpain- killers and sleeping pills, after clinics and hospitals, and are searching the literature for remedies. Having lost their sense of security, they are tormented by anxiety, fear of death, fear of failure, fear of poverty, fear of diseases, and many other phobias that might strike Allah’s creatures.

Anxiety –May Allah protect you– is a psychological disorder that strikes when one is exposed to present or future fears or dangers.An anxious man would lead a somber life; he wouldfeel suspicious of everyone and everything around him and would always feel pessimistic, disturbed, and depressed. Lacking self-confidence, he may develop paranoia, and misanthropy, suspecting all those around him of being envious and rancorous. It is said that “crime is motivated by anxiety” which manifests itself in the fear of death, hunger, poverty, illness, failure or other phobias that plague this worldly life.

Such anxious and disturbed person becomes so overwhelmed by the Herein (worldly life) that he takes it to be his greatest concern, which, as a result, would further aggravate his anxiety. A Hadith goes as follows: “He who makes the Herein his ultimate concern, Allah will place poverty right between his eyes, and he will not get from life more than what has been preordained for him.”

Remember –May Allah protect you and have mercy on you– this supplication: “O Allah! Do not make the Herein our ultimate concern!” If the Herein were our ultimate concern and the culmination of all our efforts, where would our comfort, hope and peace of mind be?

Peace of mind and tranquillity –servants of Allah– is a great favour bestowed by Allah unto His servants, the value of which is unknown except to those who have lost it. He who is suffering from sleeplessness or anxiety would certainly appreciate this grace.

“And among His Signs is the sleep that you take by night and by day, and your seeking of His Bounty.”[Al-Rūm: 23]

Worries will overwhelm the one who loses his peace of mind; he will be so badly overcome by concerns that he will suffer from insomnia, malaise, and depression.

O Muslims!

Poor arepeople of this age! They study the human psyche, but in isolation from Allah Almighty –the Creator, Provider, and Sustainer of mankind. They speak about the effect of the environment, the family, and the economy, but forget about guidance, belief, obedience and worship!

Their standardshave turned topsy-turvy and their scales have become inaccurate! Their virtues are gone, their values lost, and their moralsdegenerated. Their misguidance and straying from the right path have rendered their solutions useless and their lab experiments fruitless. They mistake control of carnal desires for suppression, and the feeling of guilt for complexes. For them, a woman with no boyfriend to commit adultery with is a sick and aberrant woman! We seek refuge in Allah from the reversal of natural predispositions.

In a fair attempt to reproach this deleterious aberration of the principles and ideology of this civilization and its attitude towards man, a sagacious intellectual stated, “There is an unbreakable bond between Allah and us: If we obey Him, our aims and aspirations are fulfilled, and our security and tranquillity realized.” “Belief is the best remedy of anxiety,” said another.

It is also said, “Belief and righteousness fend off anxiety and stress and cure psychological illnesses,Allah willing;” and “Prayers are the shortest way to tranquillity and peace of mind.”

Yes, servants of Allah!

Belief in Allah and following His divine guidance provide spiritual immunity and social security like nothing else. Such belief ensures safety, raises hope; hope begets peace of mind which, in turn, generates happiness. There is no happiness without peace of mind, and no peace of mind without belief. Belief in Allah is the soul’s pabulum, remedy and illumination.

A true believer has an unshakable faith, observes devout worship, places his trust in Allah, supplicates Almighty Allah continuously, submits to His will, shows humility to Him, does not stop remembering Him, exercises profound thought, and performs good deeds. He is good-tempered, full of hope and always optimistic. He does not regret his past, is not disgruntled at his present or anxious about his future.

Ibn Al-Qayyim ‒May Allah bless his soul‒ said,“Do not let anxiety spoil your happiness or pessimism your mind.If you think about it, you will realize that Allah has bestowed upon you favourswhich you did not ask for. Restassured that Allah does not withhold things from you except for your own good, albeit you do not know it.”

Beloved Muslim brothers and sisters!

A believer believes in fate and Allah’s decree. Whatever Allah wills will be and whatever is against the Will of Allah will never happen:

“No calamity befalls on the earth or in yourselves but is inscribed in the Book of Decrees (Al-Lauh Al-Mahfûz), before We bring it into existence. Verily, that is easy for Allâh. In order that you may not be sad over matters that you fail to get, nor rejoice because of that which has been given to you. And Allâh likes not prideful boasters.” [Al-Hadīd: 22-23]

Allah is the Provider and Allah’s provision cannot be brought by a person’s endeavour nor can it be prevented by a person’s hatred. A Muslim combines reliance on Allahas well as doing his best to get what he wants.

“And in the heaven is your provision, and that which you are promised. (22) Then, by the Lord of the heaven and the earth, it is the truth (i.e. what has been promised to you), just as it is the truth that you can speak.” [Al-Dhaariyaat: 22-23]

In the Hadith: “Fear Allah and seek your provision gently; verily, no soul will die until it exhausts its full provision and until its instant of deathcomes.” [Narrated by Ibn Maajah]

For a believer, the remembrance of Allah is his motto, and reliance on Him is his cover.Indeed no seeker of pleasure has ever experienced a pleasure better than the remembrance of Allah. How can somebody stricken by melancholy forget Allah’s following words?

“Lâ ilâha illa Anta [none has the right to be worshipped but You (O Allâh)], Glorified (and Exalted) are You [above all that (evil) they associate with You]. Truly, I have been of the wrong-doers.” [Al- Anbiyaa’:87]

It was related that Jacfar Al-Ṣaadiq ‒May Allah be pleased with him and may He bless his soul‒ said: “I wonder how come that somebody feeling depressed not rush to the Almighty’s following words: “Lâ ilâha illa Anta [none has the right to be worshipped but You (O Allâh)], Glorified (and Exalted) are You [above all that (evil) they associate with You]. Truly, I have been of the wrong- doers,” [Al-Anbiyaa’:87]. It is the supplication of Dhu Al-Nūn (Prophet Jonah),for I heard Allah follow it up by the following words:”So We answered his call, and delivered him from the distress. And thus We do deliver the believers (who believe in the Oneness of Allâh, abstain from evil and work righteousness),”[Al- Anbiyaa’: 88]. I wonder how come that somebody stricken with sadness not rush to the Almighty’s following words:”Allâh (Alone) is Sufficient for us, and He is the Best Disposer of affairs (for us),”[aal cImraan: 173], for I heard Allah follow it up by the followingwords:”So they returned with Grace and Bounty from Allâh. No harm touched them,”[aal cImraan: 174].I wonder how come that somebody surrounded by intrigues not rush to the Almighty’s following words:”…and my affair I leave it to Allâh. Verily, Allâh is the All-Seer of (His) slaves.” [Ghaafir: 44], for I heard Allah follow it up by His following words: “So Allâh saved him from the evils that they plotted (against him)” [Ghâfir: 45]

Thisis further confirmed and validated with the following hadith by our Prophet Muhammad ‒May Allah’s Salaahand Peace be upon him: “It is the supplication of Dhu Al- Nūn (Jonah) when he prayed his Lord inside the whale’s belly,‘Lâ ilâha illa Anta [none has the right to be worshipped but You (O Allâh)], Glorified (and Exalted) are You [above all that (evil) they associate with You]. Truly, I have been of the wrong-doers.’No Muslim has ever used such supplicationfor any reasonthan his supplication has been answered.” [Narrated by Ahmad in his Musnad and Al-Tirmidhi in his Jami’]

What is so exquisitely interesting, O Servants of Allah, is that the depressed person’s supplications in effect engender fulfilment of tawHīd (monotheism). The Prophet ‒May Allah’s Salaahand Peace be upon him‒ says:”O Lord! I look forward to Your mercy, so do not leave me to my own self for a blink of an eye, set right for me all my affairs, there is no deity worthy of worship except You.” [Narrated by Abu Dawood]

The Prophet ‒May Allah’s Salaahand Peace be upon him‒ also said to Asmaa’ Bint Umais: “Should I teach you a few words to say when you are depressed? ‘Allah is my Lord, no partner do I associate with Him.” [Narrated by Abu Dawood]

O Muslims!

Resorting to Allah, relying on Him, and trusting Him are among the best dispellers of worries, removers of grieves, and expellers of anxiety:

“And whosoever puts his trust in Allâh, then He will suffice him. Verily, Allâh will accomplish his purpose. Indeed Allâh has set a measure for all things.” [Al-Ṭalaaq: 3] and”And to Allâh belongs the Ghaib (unseen) of the heavens and the earth, and to Him return all affairs (for decision). So worship Him (O Muhammad Sallallahu Alayhi Wa Sallam) and put your trust in Him. And your Lord is not unaware of what you (people) do.” [Hūd: 123]

Being attached to Allah and supplicating to Him are among the greatest means to expel anxiety. This iscertainly true as your Prophet Muhammad ‒May Allah’s Salaah and Peace be upon him‒said: “If a believer suffers from anxiety or grief and he says: ‘O Allah! I am indeed Your servant, son of Your male servant and female servant; my forelock is in your hands (i.e. I am under Your control), and Your Judgement upon me is irrevocable, and Your Decree upon me is just. I ask you with every name that You have named Yourself with, revealed in Your Book (Qur’aan), taught to any of Your creation, or kept to Yourself in Your knowledge of the unseen, I ask You to make the Quran the life of my heart, the light of my chest, the banisher of my sadness,and the reliever of my distress,’ then Allah will take away his sorrow and grief.” [Narrated by Ahmad in his Musnad]

Now then, O Servants of Allah!

All the aforesaid is included in the Book of Allah, for it is the cure for what is in the chests (of humans) and for all diseases and ailments, whether physical or psychological, overt or latent:

“And We send down from the Qur’ân that which is a healing and a mercy to those who believe (in Islâmic Monotheism and act on it)” [Al-Isrâ': 82], “O Mankind! There has come to you a good advice from your Lord (i.e. the Qur’an, ordering all that is good and forbidding all that is evil), and a healing for that (disease of ignorance, doubt, hypocrisy and differences, etc.) in your breasts, – a guidance and a mercy (explaining lawful and unlawful things, etc.) for the believers.” [Yūnus: 57]

Reciting the Book of Allah imparts serenity and tranquillity on the heart.By holding tight to it, hearts become tranquil and free of anxiety, and by reflecting on it, they rest assured and free of (evil) whispers.

May Allah benefit me and you with the guidance of His Book and that of His Prophet Muhammad‒May Allah’s Salaah and Peace be upon him‒and may He make His Book a medicine for our hearts, a torch to light our way, and a cure for our illnesses. O Allah, Amen! O Allah, our Lord! Accept our supplication and forgive us, You are the Forgiving the Merciful!

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Xenophobia-Protection Du’as

In times of difficulty as well as ease, we are dependent on Allah Ta’ala.

When in prosperity, our Nabi (sallallahu’alayhi wasallam) turned in appreciation to Allah. And when difficulty arose, he (sallallahu’alayhi wasalam) always turned only to Allah.

In light of the recent xenophobic attacks, hereunder are some du’as from the Quran and Hadith that will be effective in such situations and which will -insha Allah- curb the violence, as such violence can easily over-boil…

Quranic Du’as:

When Nabi Nuh (‘alayhis Salam) was overwhelmed by the opposition of his people he recited the following du’a:
رَبِّ إِنِّيْ مَغْلُوبٌ فَانْتَصِرْ

Rabbi inni maghlubun fantasir

‘O Allah I am overpowered, so assist me.’

(Surah Qamar, verse: 10)

When Nabi Ibrahim (‘alayhis Salam) left his family in a foreign land, he made this du’a:
فاجعل أفئدة من الناس تهوي إليهم

‘O Allah…. turn the hearts of the people in their favour.’

(Surah Ibrahim, verse: 37)

To link this du’a to ourselves we should recite the following:

رَبَّنا اجْعَلْ أَفْئِدَةً مِّنَ النَّاسِ تَهْوِيْ إِلَيْنا

Rabbanaj ‘al af-idatam minan naasi tahwi ilayna

‘O Allah turn the hearts of the people towards us.’

Nabi Ibrahim (‘alayhis Salam) and his followers made the following du’a –which Allah Ta’ala exhorts us to emulate-:
رَبَّنا لا تَجْعَلْنا فِتْنَةً لِّلَّذِيْنَ كَفَرُوا وَاغْفِرْ لَنا رَبَّنا إِنَّكَ أَنْتَ الْعَزِيْزُ الحَكِيم

Rabbana la taj’al na fitnatal lilladhina kafaru, wagh fir lana rabbana innaka antal ‘azizul hakim.

‘O our Rabb, o not make us a test for the disbelievers, and forgive us o our Rabb, indeed you are most Powerful most Wise.’

(Surah Mumtahinah, verse: 5)

When Nabi Musa (‘alayhis Salam) was driven out of his town he recited:
رَبِّ نَجِّنِيْ مِنَ الْقَومِ الظَّالِمِيْن

Rabbi najjini minal qawmiz zalimin

‘O Allah protect me from the oppressing people.’

(Surah Qasas, verse: 21)

The followers of Nabi Musa (‘alayhis salam) made the following du’a when they were under the threat of Fir’awn:
رَبَّنَا لا تَجْعَلْنا فِتْنَةً لِّلْقَوْمِ الظَّالِمِينَ وَنَجِّنَا بِرَحْمَتِكَ مِنَ الْقَوْمِ الْكافِرِين

Rabbana la taj’alna fitnatal lil qawmiz zalimin, wa najjina birahmatika minal qawmil kafirin

‘O Allah, do not make us a test for the oppressive ones, and rescue us through your mercy from those who do not believe.’

(Surah Yunus, verses: 85-86)

Du’a from the Hadith:

Whenever Rasulullah (sallalalhu’alayhi wasallam) feared harm from any nation, he would recite the following du’a:
اَللّٰهُمَّ إنَّا نَجْعَلُكَ فِيْ نُحُوْرِهِمْ وَنَعُوذُ بِكَ مِنْ شُرُورِهِمْ

Allahumma inna naj’aluka fi nuhurihim, wa na’udhu bika min shururihim

‘O Allah, We place you in front of them, and we seek your refuge from their harms.’

(Sunan Abi Dawud & Sahih Ibn Hibban)

These du’as should be recited from the heart. We should cry and beg from Allah Ta’ala with the above.

In addition to these du’as, we should:

Give abundant charity in all forms. This could even be done by assisting those affected by these attacks. By donating aid to these people we will be securing our own safety insha Allah.

Show mercy to those on earth, Allah will show you His Mercy. (hadith)

Abstain from sin as much as possible. For sins are the biggest causes of difficulty.

May Allah Ta’ala alleviate the sufferings of all mankind throughout the globe. Amin.

Al Miftah

Roshnee Ijtima 2015 – What it’s all about

Azhar Vadi | 11 Jumadal Ukhra 1436 – 01 April 2015

It’s not about the numbers of people that are expected to gather  in Roshnee this weekend, south of Johannesburg, for another of South Africa’s annual Tabligh Jamaat Ijtima or mass gatherings.

It’s not about whether there will be dhal and rice or mutton curry served after the Friday’s Jummah Salaah. It’s not about the vast arrangements and preparations, spanning months before, that have gone into hosting the thousands who will attend from the 3-6 April 2015.

In an Islamic world that increasingly sees brother Muslim ever so ready to derail the efforts of the next brother Muslim, where name, glory and expected praise is the way the tasbeeh (rosary) beads roll, the Ijtima and the works of the Tabligh Jamaat pedal in the total opposite direction.

Unlike the common practice where leadership is sort after, fought for and people are willing to get beaten up and even killed to keep a hold of it, the true Islamic manner of shunning and pushing away leadership, name, prestige and power is the banner under which the Tabligh Jamaat operates today.

No one wants to be at the helm, for fear that any miscalculation or mismanagement or a moment of weakness that could result in the entire ship steering in the wrong direction. And this fear ultimately transcends into a fear of the reckoning that the leader will face on the Day of Qiyamah.

There are no bank accounts, no fundraising campaigns, no elections. Each individual using their own health, wealth and time, often sacrificing the very things that are dearest to them; family time, recreational activity, their business life and even their workplaces for a single overriding purpose: to become part of the worry and concern of the final Messenger Muhammad (sallalahu alayhi wa sallam) by making an effort to bring conviction in the Oneness of Allah and practical Islam into their lives and passing this message on to others.

Without seeking any reward from next person or power or land or country of kingship, the effort has won of the hearts of millions of Muslims, both men and women, across the globe. There exists today not a single country where the group has not reached.

What is the Ijtima?

The Ijtima, or mass gathering, is simply to draw as many people as possible to a specific place for a set duration of time, creating the opportunity to speak to them about the importance of learning the Deen of Allah, imbibing and practicing the Deen of Allah and then creating the worry and concern in the hearts of all to see how the Deen of Allah can be passed on to every human being until the end of time in order for us all to be successful in this world and the next.

During the Ijtima, senior Islamic scholars will address the gathering encouraging people towards self-reformation and adherence to an Islamic way of life as espoused by the final Messenger, Muhammad (sallalahu alayhi wa sallam).

People who attend will spend their time listening to lectures on Islam, learning through halaqahs of Taalim, speaking about Allah and the Sunnah or practices of Muhammad (sallalahu alayhi wa sallam), sleep on the floor under simple structures and eat all together on one eating mat.

Six Qualities

The teaching of the Tabligh Jamaat is based on six qualities commonly found in every Sabahabi or companion of the Messenger, Muhammad (sallalahu alayhi wa sallam). By the admittance of the Tabligh Jamaat elders themselves, the six qualities are not the whole of Islam. There is no Hajj or Zakaat or direct reference to business dealings for example. But by practicing on the six mentioned, it becomes easier to bring the complete religion into one’s life. The method has been tried and tested and the millions who have changed their lives from being from the lowest ebbs of society to proponents of piety, bears testimony to the greatness of the effort. These qualities are:

Correction of conviction in the belief that there is no God but God and that Muhammad (sallalahu alayhi wa sallam) is the final Messenger of God.
The performance of Salaah (prayer).
The acquisition of beneficial knowledge and its application.
Honouring fellow Muslims and service to the rest of humanity and creation.
Correction of intention.
And striving with one’s own health and wealth for the establishment of these qualities.
The sermons delivered at this year’s Ijtima will focus on these very topics. From the Ijtima groups of Muslims will then be called on to volunteer their time to spread the same message to the Muslim public throughout South Africa and the rest of the world.

They are constituted into a jamaat or group, with an ameer or responsible person, appointed as a leader from amongst them. They are then directed to head out along a predetermined route where they will meet other Muslims and pass on these key Islamic messages.

History

The movement has a long history. It was revived in 1926 by Moulana Muhammad Ilyas Khandlawi in the rural Mewat villages surrounding New Delhi in India. Distressed by the lack of Islamic knowledge and practice amongst the Meos people, the Moulana set out under trying circumstances to invite these villagers to accompany him and start learning Islam once again. His efforts soon spread and his message reached out to Muslims across all social and economic strata.

The movement is viewed by many as one of the greatest tools that can unite the Muslim Ummah because of their policy of steering clear from any controversial issues and politics.

The followers of the group, commonly known as Tablighis, are encouraged to respect and be tolerant with Muslims who differ ideologically as well as with other religious groups. It is not uncommon to find followers of the different schools of Islamic jurisprudence in one active group or Muslims from different nationalities and cultural backgrounds moving from place to place. Europeans, Africans, Asians, Hanafis, Shafi’ees and even Salafi’s all work together and effectively for the upliftment of their faith.

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Anti-Depressant Homemade Mixture from the Sunnah

Question:

I heard from someone that talbeenah is very good for sick people. Can you please advise relevant benefit of it and how is it made

In the Name of Allah, the Most Gracious, the Most Merciful.

As-salāmu ‘alaykum wa-rahmatullāhi wa-barakātuh.

Talbeenah or Talbeen[1] is a mixture made from either barley, milk, and honey or barley, milk, and dried dates. It can also be made with water. Talbeenah is recommended by Rasulullah Sallallahu Alayhi Wasallam which serves as an anti-depressant and is beneficial to overcome anxiety.[2] The Hadith on Talbeenah is as follows:

عَنْ عَائِشَةَ، زَوْجِ النَّبِيِّ صَلَّى اللهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ: أَنَّهَا كَانَتْ إِذَا مَاتَ المَيِّتُ مِنْ أَهْلِهَا، فَاجْتَمَعَ لِذَلِكَ النِّسَاءُ، ثُمَّ تَفَرَّقْنَ إِلَّا أَهْلَهَا وَخَاصَّتَهَا، أَمَرَتْ بِبُرْمَةٍ مِنْ تَلْبِينَةٍ فَطُبِخَتْ، ثُمَّ صُنِعَ ثَرِيدٌ فَصُبَّتِ التَّلْبِينَةُ عَلَيْهَا، ثُمَّ قَالَتْ: كُلْنَ مِنْهَا، فَإِنِّي سَمِعْتُ رَسُولَ اللَّهِ صَلَّى اللهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ يَقُولُ: «التَّلْبِينَةُ مُجِمَّةٌ لِفُؤَادِ المَرِيضِ، تَذْهَبُ بِبَعْضِ الحُزْنِ»

Narrated ‘Aisha: (the wife of the Prophet) that whenever one of her relatives passed away, the women assembled and then dispersed (returned to their houses) except her relatives and close friends. She would order that a pot of Talbina be cooked. Then Tharid (a dish prepared from meat and bread) would be prepared and the Talbina would be poured on it. `Aisha would say (to the women),”Eat of it, for I heard Allah’s Messenger (ﷺ) saying, ‘The Talbina soothes the heart of the patient and relieves him from some of his sadness/grief.’ “[3]

Hafiz Ibn Hajar Rahimahullah has explained the benefits of Talbeenah and its effect on the body and digestive system in his commentary of Bukhari Shareef as follows:

قَالَ الْمُوَفَّقُ الْبَغْدَادِيُّ إِذَا شِئْتَ مَعْرِفَةَ مَنَافِعِ التَّلْبِينَةِ فَاعْرِفْ مَنَافِعَ مَاءِ الشَّعِيرِ وَلَا سِيَّمَا إِذَا كَانَ نُخَالَةً فَإِنَّهُ يَجْلُو وَيَنْفُذُ بِسُرْعَةٍ وَيُغَذِّي غِذَاءً لَطِيفًا وَإِذَا شُرِبَ حَارًّا كَانَ أَجْلَى وَأَقْوَى نُفُوذًا وَأَنْمَى لِلْحَرَارَةِ الْغَرِيزِيَّةِ قَالَ وَالْمُرَادُ بِالْفُؤَادِ فِي الْحَدِيثِ رَأْسُ الْمَعِدَةِ فَإِنَّ فُؤَادَ الْحَزِينِ يَضْعُفُ بِاسْتِيلَاءِ الْيُبْسِ عَلَى أَعْضَائِهِ وَعَلَى مَعِدَتِهِ خَاصَّةً لِتَقْلِيلِ الْغِذَاءِ وَالْحَسَاءُ يُرَطِّبُهَا وَيُغَذِّيهَا وَيُقَوِّيهَا وَيَفْعَلُ مِثْلَ ذَلِكَ بِفُؤَادِ الْمَرِيضِ لَكِنِ الْمَرِيضُ كَثِيرًا مَا يَجْتَمِعُ فِي مَعِدَتِهِ خِلْطٌ مَرَارِيٌّ أَوْ بَلْغَمِيٌّ أَوْ صَدِيدِيٌّ وَهَذَا الْحَسَاءُ يَجْلُو ذَلِكَ عَنِ الْمَعِدَةِ

Imam Muwaffaq al-Baghdadi Rahimahullah says: If you wish to know about the benefits of talbeenah, then you should understand the benefits of barley juice; especially when it is in the form of bran since it digests very quickly and provides a very light form of nourishment. And when it is consumed while it is hot, then it digests even more easily and it increases the natural heat of the body. He further mentions: the meaning of ‘fu’aad/heart” in the Hadith is the stomach itself because the heart of a sad person becomes weak when dryness increases in his body parts and [increases] specifically in his stomach due to the lack of nourishment. And the soup/porridge moistens it, nourishes it, and provides it strength. It also has a similar effect on
the heart of a sick person. However, the stomach of a sick person is often mixed with bile, mucus, or pus and this soup removes these substances from the stomach.[4]

Recipe of Talbeenah:

1.         Mix barley with milk or water and let it boil for approximately 45 minutes.

2.         Add honey or dried dates.

There is always blessings and barakah in following the prescription of Rasulullah Sallallahu Alayhi Wasallam especially in this era of grief and depression. We therefore advise people involved in the food industry to consider manufacturing talbeenah and promoting the prescription of Rasulullah Sallallahu Alayhi Wasallam.

And Allah Ta’āla Knows Best

AbdulMannan Nizami

Student Darul Iftaa
Chicago, IL, USA

Checked and Approved by,
Mufti Ebrahim Desai.

http://www.daruliftaa. net

[1] والتَّلْبِينُ: حَساً يُتَّخَذُ مِنْ مَاءِ النُّخالة فِيهِ لَبَنٌ، وَهُوَ اسْمٌ كالتَّمْتينِ. وَفِي حَدِيثِ

عَائِشَةَ، رَضِيَ اللَّهُ عَنْهَا، قَالَتْ: سَمِعْتُ رَسُولَ اللَّهِ، صَلَّى اللَّهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ، يَقُولُ التَّلْبِنة مَجَمَّةٌ لِفُؤَادِ الْمَرِيضِ تُذْهِبُ بَعْضَ الحُزْن

؛ الأَصمعي: التَّلْبينة حَساء يُعْمَلُ مِنْ دَقِيقٍ أَو نُخَالَةٍ وَيُجْعَلُ فِيهَا عَسَلٌ، سُمِّيَتْ تَلْبينة تَشْبِيهًا باللَّبَن لِبَيَاضِهَا وَرِقَّتِهَا، وَهِيَ تَسْمِيَةٌ بالمَرَّة مِنَ التَّلبين مُصْدَرُ لَبَنَ القومَ أَي سَقاهم اللَّبنَ، وَقَوْلُهُ مَجَمَّةٌ لِفُؤَادِ الْمَرِيضِ أَي تَسْرُو عَنْهُ هَمَّه أَي تَكْشِفُه. وَقَالَ الرِّياشي فِي حَدِيثِ

عَائِشَةَ: عَلَيْكُمْ بالمَشْنِيئَة النافعةِ التَّلْبين

؛ قَالَ: يَعْنِي الحَسْوَ، قَالَ: وسأَلت الأَصمعي عَنِ المَشْنِيئَة فَقَالَ: يَعْنِي البَغِيضة، ثُمَّ فَسَّرَ التَّلْبينة كَمَا ذَكَرْنَاهُ.

[لسان العرب، لام، ج۸، ص۲۸، دار الحدیث]

[2] (قَوْلُهُ بَابُ التَّلْبِينَةِ لِلْمَرِيضِ)

هِيَ بِفَتْحِ الْمُثَنَّاةِ وَسُكُونِ اللَّامِ وَكَسْرِ الْمُوَحَّدَةِ بَعْدَهَا تَحْتَانِيَّةٌ ثُمَّ نُونٌ ثُمَّ هَاءٌ وَقَدْ يُقَالُ بِلَا هَاءٍ قَالَ الْأَصْمَعِيُّ هِيَ حَسَاءٌ يُعْمَلُ مِنْ دَقِيقٍ أَوْ نُخَالَةٍ وَيُجْعَلُ فِيهِ عَسَلٌ قَالَ غَيْرُهُ أَوْ لَبَنٌ سُمِّيَتْ تَلْبِينَةً تَشْبِيهًا لَهَا بِاللَّبَنِ فِي بياضها ورقتها وَقَالَ بن قُتَيْبَةَ وَعَلَى قَوْلِ مَنْ قَالَ يُخْلَطُ فِيهَا لَبَنٌ سُمِّيَتْ بِذَلِكَ لِمُخَالَطَةِ اللَّبَنِ لَهَا وَقَالَ أَبُو نُعَيْمٍ فِي الطِّبِّ هِيَ دَقِيقٌ بَحْتٌ وَقَالَ قَوْمٌ فِيهِ شَحْمٌ وَقَالَ الدَّاوُدِيُّ يُؤْخَذُ الْعَجِينُ غَيْرَ خَمِيرٍ فَيُخْرَجُ مَاؤُهُ فَيُجْعَلُ حَسْوًا فَيَكُونُ لَا يُخَالِطُهُ شَيْءٌ فَلِذَلِكَ كَثُرَ نَفْعُهُ وَقَالَ الْمُوَفَّقُ الْبَغْدَادِيُّ التَّلْبِينَةُ الْحَسَاءُ وَيَكُونُ فِي قِوَامِ اللَّبَنِ وَهُوَ الدَّقِيقُ النَّضِيجُ لَا الْغَلِيظُ النىء۔۔۔(كَانَتْ تَأْمُرُنَا بِالتَّلْبِينَةِ وَتَقُولُ هُوَ الْبَغِيضُ النَّافِعُ) وَوَقَعَ عِنْدَ أَحْمد وبن مَاجَهْ مِنْ طَرِيقِ كَلْثَمَ عَنْ عَائِشَةَ مَرْفُوعًا عَلَيْكُمْ بِالْبَغِيضِ النَّافِعِ التَّلْبِينَةِ يَعْنِي الْحَسَاءَ وَأَخْرَجَهُ النَّسَائِيُّ مِنْ وَجْهٍ آخَرَ عَنْ عَائِشَةَ وَزَادَ وَالَّذِي نَفْسُ مُحَمَّدٍ بِيَدِهِ إِنَّهَا لَتَغْسِلُ بَطْنَ أَحَدِكُمْ كَمَا يَغْسِلُ أَحَدُكُمُ الْوَسَخَ عَنْ وَجْهِهِ بِالْمَاءِ وَلَهُ وَهُوَ عِنْدَ أَحْمَدَ وَالتِّرْمِذِيِّ مِنْ طَرِيقِ مُحَمَّدِ بْنِ السَّائِبِ بْنِ بَرَكَةَ عَنْ أُمِّهِ عَنْ عَائِشَةَ قَالَتْ كَانَ رَسُولُ اللَّهِ صَلَّى اللَّهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ إِذَا أَخَذَ أَهْلَهُ الْوَعْكُ أَمَرَ بِالْحَسَاءِ فَصُنِعَ ثُمَّ أَمَرَهُمْ فَحَسَوْا مِنْهُ ثُمَّ قَالَ إِنَّهُ يَرْتُو فُؤَادَ الْحَزِينِ وَيَسْرُو عَنْ فُؤَادِ السَّقِيمِ كَمَا تَسْرُو إِحْدَاكُنَّ الْوَسَخَ عَنْ وَجْهِهَا بِالْمَاءِ وَيَرْتُو بِفَتْحِ أَوَّلِهِ وَسُكُونِ الرَّاءِ وَضَمِّ الْمُثَنَّاةِ وَيَسْرُو وَزْنُهُ بِسِينٍ مُهْمَلَةٍ ثُمَّ رَاءٍ وَمَعْنَى يَرْتُو يُقَوِّي وَمَعْنَى يَسْرُو يَكْشِفُ وَالْبَغِيضُ بِوَزْنِ عَظِيمٍ مِنَ الْبُغْضِ أَيْ يُبْغِضُهُ الْمَرِيضُ مَعَ كَوْنِهِ يَنْفَعُهُ كَسَائِرِ الْأَدْوِيَةِ۔۔۔قَالَ الْمُوَفَّقُ الْبَغْدَادِيُّ إِذَا شِئْتَ مَعْرِفَةَ مَنَافِعِ التَّلْبِينَةِ فَاعْرِفْ مَنَافِعَ مَاءِ الشَّعِيرِ وَلَا سِيَّمَا إِذَا كَانَ نُخَالَةً فَإِنَّهُ يَجْلُو وَيَنْفُذُ بِسُرْعَةٍ وَيُغَذِّي غِذَاءً لَطِيفًا وَإِذَا شُرِبَ حَارًّا كَانَ أَجْلَى وَأَقْوَى نُفُوذًا وَأَنْمَى لِلْحَرَارَةِ الْغَرِيزِيَّةِ قَالَ وَالْمُرَادُ بِالْفُؤَادِ فِي الْحَدِيثِ رَأْسُ الْمَعِدَةِ فَإِنَّ فُؤَادَ الْحَزِينِ يَضْعُفُ بِاسْتِيلَاءِ الْيُبْسِ عَلَى أَعْضَائِهِ وَعَلَى مَعِدَتِهِ خَاصَّةً لِتَقْلِيلِ الْغِذَاءِ وَالْحَسَاءُ يُرَطِّبُهَا وَيُغَذِّيهَا وَيُقَوِّيهَا وَيَفْعَلُ مِثْلَ ذَلِكَ بِفُؤَادِ الْمَرِيضِ لَكِنِ الْمَرِيضُ كَثِيرًا مَا يَجْتَمِعُ فِي مَعِدَتِهِ خِلْطٌ مَرَارِيٌّ أَوْ بَلْغَمِيٌّ أَوْ صَدِيدِيٌّ وَهَذَا الْحَسَاءُ يَجْلُو ذَلِكَ عَنِ الْمَعِدَةِ قَالَ وَسَمَّاهُ الْبَغِيضَ النَّافِعَ لِأَنَّ الْمَرِيضَ يَعَافُهُ وَهُوَ نَافِعٌ لَهُ قَالَ وَلَا شَيْءَ أَنْفَعُ مِنَ الْحَسَاءِ لِمَنْ يَغْلِبُ عَلَيْهِ فِي غِذَائِهِ الشَّعِيرُ وَأَمَّا مَنْ يَغْلِبُ عَلَى غِذَائِهِ الْحِنْطَةُ فَالْأَوْلَى بِهِ فِي مَرَضِهِ حَسَاءُ الشَّعِيرِ وَقَالَ صَاحِبُ الْهَدْيِ التَّلْبِينَةُ أَنْفَعُ مِنَ الْحَسَاءِ لِأَنَّهَا تُطْبَخُ مَطْحُونَةً فَتَخْرُجُ خَاصَّةُ الشَّعِيرِ بِالطَّحْنِ وَهِيَ أَكْثَرُ تَغْذِيَةً وَأَقْوَى فِعْلًا وَأَكْثَرُ جَلَاءً وَإِنَّمَا اخْتَارَ الْأَطِبَّاءُ النَّضِيجَ لِأَنَّهُ أَرَقُّ وَأَلْطَفُ فَلَا يَثْقُلُ عَلَى طَبِيعَةِ الْمَرِيضِ وَيَنْبَغِي أَنْ يَخْتَلِفَ الِانْتِفَاعُ بِذَلِكَ بِحَسَبِ اخْتِلَافِ الْعَادَةِ فِي الْبِلَادِ وَلَعَلَّ اللَّائِقَ بِالْمَرِيضِ مَاءُ الشَّعِيرِ إِذَا طُبِخَ صَحِيحًا وَبِالْحَزِينِ إِذَا طُبِخَ مَطْحُونًا لَمَّا تَقَدَّمَتِ الْإِشَارَةُ مِنَ الْفَرْقِ بَيْنَهُمَا فِي الخاصية وَالله أعلم

[فتح الباري، کتاب الطب، باب التلبینة للمریض، ج۱۰، ص١٦٦، دار الحدیث]

[عمدة القاری، کتاب الطب، باب التلبینة، ج۱۷، ص٤٤٨، المکتبة التوفیقیة]

[تکملة فتح الملہم، کتاب الطب، باب التلبینة، ج۵، ص۲۰۹، دار القلم]

[قاموس الفقہ، تلبینہ، ج۲، ص۵۲۸، زمزم پبلشرز]

التَّلْبِينُ: هُوَ الْحِسَاءُ الرَّقِيقُ الَّذِي هُوَ فِي قِوَامِ اللَّبَنِ، وَمِنْهُ اشْتُقَّ اسْمُهُ، قَالَ الهروي: سُمِّيَتْ تَلْبِينَةً لِشَبَهِهَا بِاللَّبَنِ لِبَيَاضِهَا وَرِقَّتِهَا، وَهَذَا الْغِذَاءُ هُوَ النَّافِعُ لِلْعَلِيلِ، وَهُوَ الرَّقِيقُ النَّضِيحُ لَا الْغَلِيظُ النِّيءُ، وَإِذَا شِئْتَ أَنْ تَعْرِفَ فَضْلَ التَّلْبِينَةِ فَاعْرِفْ فَضْلَ مَاءِ الشَّعِيرِ، بَلْ هِيَ مَاءُ الشَّعِيرِ لَهُمْ، فَإِنَّهَا حِسَاءٌ مُتَّخَذٌ مِنْ دَقِيقِ الشَّعِيرِ بِنُخَالَتِهِ، وَالْفَرْقُ بَيْنَهَا وَبَيْنَ مَاءِ الشَّعِيرِ أَنَّهُ يُطْبَخُ صِحَاحًا، وَالتَّلْبِينَةُ تُطْبَخُ مِنْهُ مَطْحُونًا، وَهِيَ أَنْفَعُ مِنْهُ لِخُرُوجِ خَاصِّيَّةِ الشَّعِيرِ بِالطَّحْنِ، وَقَدْ تَقَدَّمَ أَنَّ لِلْعَادَاتِ تَأْثِيرًا فِي الِانْتِفَاعِ بِالْأَدْوِيَةِ وَالْأَغْذِيَةِ، وَكَانَتْ عَادَةُ الْقَوْمِ أَنْ يَتَّخِذُوا مَاءَ الشَّعِيرِ مِنْهُ مَطْحُونًا لَا صِحَاحًا، وَهُوَ أَكْثَرُ تَغْذِيَةً وَأَقْوَى فِعْلًا وَأَعْظَمُ جَلَاءً، وَإِنَّمَا اتَّخَذَهُ أَطِبَّاءُ الْمُدُنِ مِنْهُ صِحَاحًا لِيَكُونَ أَرَقَّ وَأَلْطَفَ، فَلَا يَثْقُلُ عَلَى طَبِيعَةِ الْمَرِيضِ، وَهَذَا بِحَسَبِ طَبَائِعِ أَهْلِ الْمُدُنِ وَرَخَاوَتِهَا، وَثِقَلِ مَاءِ الشَّعِيرِ الْمَطْحُونِ عَلَيْهَا. وَالْمَقْصُودُ: أَنَّ مَاءَ الشَّعِيرِ مَطْبُوخًا صِحَاحًا يَنْفُذُ سَرِيعًا، وَيَجْلُو جَلَاءً ظَاهِرًا وَيُغَذِّي غِذَاءً لَطِيفًا. وَإِذَا شُرِبَ حَارًّا كَانَ جَلَاؤُهُ أَقْوَى، وَنُفُوذُهُ أَسْرَعَ وَإِنْمَاؤُهُ لِلْحَرَارَةِ الْغَرِيزِيَّةِ أَكْثَرَ وَتَلْمِيسُهُ لِسُطُوحِ الْمَعِدَةِ أَوْفَقَ.

وَقَوْلُهُ صَلَّى اللَّهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ فِيهَا: ( «مَجَمَّةٌ لِفُؤَادِ الْمَرِيضِ» ) يُرْوَى بِوَجْهَيْنِ. بِفَتْحِ الْمِيمِ وَالْجِيمِ، وَبِضَمِّ الْمِيمِ وَكَسْرِ الْجِيمِ، وَالْأَوَّلُ: أَشْهَرُ وَمَعْنَاهُ: أَنَّهَا مُرِيحَةٌ لَهُ، أَيْ تُرِيحُهُ وَتُسَكِّنُهُ مِنَ الْإِجْمَامِ، وَهُوَ الرَّاحَةُ. وَقَوْلُهُ ” تَذْهَبُ بِبَعْضِ الْحُزْنِ ” هَذَا – وَاللَّهُ أَعْلَمُ – لِأَنَّ الْغَمَّ وَالْحُزْنَ يُبَرِّدَانِ الْمِزَاجَ، وَيُضْعِفَانِ الْحَرَارَةَ الْغَرِيزِيَّةَ لِمَيْلِ الرُّوحِ الْحَامِلِ لَهَا إِلَى جِهَةِ الْقَلْبِ الَّذِي هُوَ مَنْشَؤُهَا، وَهَذَا الْحِسَاءُ يُقَوِّي الْحَرَارَةَ الْغَرِيزِيَّةَ بِزِيَادَتِهِ فِي مَادَّتِهَا، فَتُزِيلُ أَكْثَرَ مَا عَرَضَ لَهُ مِنَ الْغَمِّ وَالْحُزْنِ.

وَقَدْ يُقَالُ – وَهُوَ أَقْرَبُ – إِنَّهَا تَذْهَبُ بِبَعْضِ الْحُزْنِ بِخَاصِّيَّةٍ فِيهَا مِنْ جِنْسِ خَوَاصِّ الْأَغْذِيَةِ الْمُفْرِحَةِ فَإِنَّ مِنَ الْأَغْذِيَةِ مَا يُفْرِحُ بِالْخَاصِّيَّةِ، وَاللَّهُ أَعْلَمُ.

وَقَدْ يُقَالُ: إِنَّ قُوَى الْحَزِينِ تَضْعُفُ بِاسْتِيلَاءِ الْيُبْسِ عَلَى أَعْضَائِهِ، وَعَلَى مَعِدَتِهِ خَاصَّةً لِتَقْلِيلِ الْغِذَاءِ، وَهَذَا الْحِسَاءُ يُرَطِّبُهَا وَيُقَوِّيهَا وَيُغَذِّيهَا، وَيَفْعَلُ مِثْلَ ذَلِكَ بِفُؤَادِ الْمَرِيضِ، لَكِنَّ الْمَرِيضَ كَثِيرًا مَا يَجْتَمِعُ فِي مَعِدَتِهِ خَلْطٌ مَرَارِيٌّ، أَوْ بَلْغَمِيٌّ أَوْ صَدِيدِيٌّ، وَهَذَا الْحِسَاءُ يَجْلُو ذَلِكَ عَنِ الْمَعِدَةِ وَيَسْرُوهُ وَيَحْدُرُهُ وَيُمَيِّعُهُ وَيُعَدِّلُ كَيْفِيَّتَهُ وَيَكْسِرُ سَوْرَتَهُ، فَيُرِيحُهَا وَلَا سِيَّمَا لِمَنْ عَادَتُهُ الِاغْتِذَاءُ بِخُبْزِ الشَّعِيرِ، وَهِيَ عَادَةُ أَهْلِ الْمَدِينَةِ إِذْ ذَاكَ، وَكَانَ هُوَ غَالِبَ قُوتِهِمْ، وَكَانَتِ الْحِنْطَةُ عَزِيزَةً عِنْدَهُمْ. وَاللَّهُ أَعْلَمُ.

[زاد المعاد، فصل فی ھدیہ صلی اللہ علیہ وسلم فی تغذیة المریض، ج٤، ص۱۱۰، موسسة الرسالة]

[3] صحيح البخاري (7/ 75)

حَدَّثَنَا يَحْيَى بْنُ بُكَيْرٍ، حَدَّثَنَا اللَّيْثُ، عَنْ عُقَيْلٍ، عَنِ ابْنِ شِهَابٍ، عَنْ عُرْوَةَ، عَنْ عَائِشَةَ، زَوْجِ النَّبِيِّ صَلَّى اللهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ: أَنَّهَا كَانَتْ إِذَا مَاتَ المَيِّتُ مِنْ أَهْلِهَا، فَاجْتَمَعَ لِذَلِكَ النِّسَاءُ، ثُمَّ تَفَرَّقْنَ إِلَّا أَهْلَهَا وَخَاصَّتَهَا، أَمَرَتْ بِبُرْمَةٍ مِنْ تَلْبِينَةٍ فَطُبِخَتْ، ثُمَّ صُنِعَ ثَرِيدٌ فَصُبَّتِ التَّلْبِينَةُ عَلَيْهَا، ثُمَّ قَالَتْ: كُلْنَ مِنْهَا، فَإِنِّي سَمِعْتُ رَسُولَ اللَّهِ صَلَّى اللهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ يَقُولُ: «التَّلْبِينَةُ مُجِمَّةٌ لِفُؤَادِ المَرِيضِ، تَذْهَبُ بِبَعْضِ الحُزْنِ»

صحيح مسلم (4/ 1736)

(2216) حَدَّثَنَا عَبْدُ الْمَلِكِ بْنُ شُعَيْبِ بْنِ اللَّيْثِ بْنِ سَعْدٍ، حَدَّثَنِي أَبِي، عَنْ جَدِّي، حَدَّثَنِي عُقَيْلُ بْنُ خَالِدٍ، عَنِ ابْنِ شِهَابٍ، عَنْ عُرْوَةَ، عَنْ عَائِشَةَ، زَوْجِ النَّبِيِّ صَلَّى اللهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ أَنَّهَا كَانَتْ إِذَا مَاتَ الْمَيِّتُ مِنْ أَهْلِهَا فَاجْتَمَعَ لِذَلِكَ النِّسَاءُ، ثُمَّ تَفَرَّقْنَ إِلَّا أَهْلَهَا وَخَاصَّتَهَا أَمَرَتْ بِبُرْمَةٍ مِنْ تَلْبِينَةٍ فَطُبِخَتْ، ثُمَّ صُنِعَ ثَرِيدٌ، فَصُبَّتِ التَّلْبِينَةُ عَلَيْهَا، ثُمَّ قَالَتْ: كُلْنَ مِنْهَا، فَإِنِّي سَمِعْتُ رَسُولَ اللهِ صَلَّى اللهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ يَقُولُ: «التَّلْبِينَةُ مُجِمَّةٌ لِفُؤَادِ الْمَرِيضِ، تُذْهِبُ بَعْضَ الْحُزْنِ»

سنن ابن ماجه (2/ 1140)

حَدَّثَنَا عَلِيُّ بْنُ أَبِي الْخَصِيبِ قَالَ: حَدَّثَنَا وَكِيعٌ، عَنْ أَيْمَنَ بْنِ نَابِلٍ، عَنِ امْرَأَةٍ، مِنْ قُرَيْشٍ يُقَالَ لَهَا كَلْثُمٌ، عَنْ عَائِشَةَ، قَالَتْ: قَالَ النَّبِيُّ صَلَّى اللهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ: «عَلَيْكُمْ بِالْبَغِيضِ النَّافِعِ التَّلْبِينَةِ» يَعْنِي الْحَسَاءَ قَالَتْ: «وَكَانَ رَسُولُ اللَّهِ صَلَّى اللهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ إِذَا اشْتَكَى أَحَدٌ مِنْ أَهْلِهِ، لَمْ تَزَلِ الْبُرْمَةُ عَلَى النَّارِ، حَتَّى يَنْتَهِيَ أَحَدُ طَرَفَيْهِ، يَعْنِي يَبْرَأُ أَوْ يَمُوتُ»

[4] Ibid

~ Darul Iftaa ~

Sell not Your Religion!

Among the most compelling contemporary challenges, are the alarmingly increasing temptations to compromise on one’s basic beliefs.

When a person loses focus of what is important in his/her life, then to sell off the most valuable asset becomes easy. In so doing, he/she is the biggest loser.

 

In a Hadith of Sahih Muslim, Rasulullah (sallallahu’alayhi wasallam) warned the ummah of a time when people would put their worldly aspirations ahead of their religious obligations.

Sayyiduna Abu Hurayrah (radiyallahu’anhu) reports that Rasulullah (sallallahu’alayhi wasallam) said:

‘Be quick in increasing your good deeds, before such trials arrive, in which a person who was a believer in the morning will become a kafir (non believer) by the evening, or he who was a believer in the evening would become a non believer by the morning; because of him selling his din (religion) in exchange of the acquisitions of the world.’

(Sahih Muslim, hadith: 309)

 

The different forms

‘Selling one’s religion has two forms’, says the Grand Mufti; Muhammad Rafi’ ‘Uthmani (may Allah protect him):

‘Formally renouncing one’s religion for another because of the temptation of wealth etc.To forgo/compromise a deed of Islam in exchange of worldly gain. Such a person doesn’t necessarily become a non believer, but he is guilty of a very serious sin.’

(Dars Muslim, vol.1 pg.402)

This Hadith is actually a diagnosis of the current state of the world. This epidemic has engulfed all facets of society, the leaned and the layman.

When a man’s priority is his worldly assets, then to compromise on his religion is not considered serious anymore!

For this reason, we find it has become so easy for people to say (or do) the wrong just to satisfy certain individuals, or merely to attain particular positions etc.

The increasing number of such opportunities is scary.

These are people who were actually given a subtle choice; either stick to your religious practice and be deprived of the worldly gain that’s on offer, or vice-versa. Those who choose wisely will not regret their decision.

One should be scared at the thought of being in such a situation, for very few in these days will pass the test! May Allah Subhanahu wa Ta’ala save me and all from such trials. Amin.

 

Allah Ta’ala says regarding those who chose unwisely:

‘Those are the ones who have purchased misguidance in exchange of guidance. Their trade was not profitable, and neither were they guided.

Their example is like that of a person who lights a fire. When it brightens his surroundings, Allah removes their light and leaves them in darkness, unable to see.’

(Surah: 2, Ayah: 16-17)

 

A Lesson from History

There are countless inspirational anecdotes on the subject, of which I chose to quote the following only:

Imam ‘Affan ibn Muslim As-Saffar (rahimahullah) was a reliable Muhaddith (Hadith Master) but he possessed little of this world.

His condition was so dire, that he once had to ask his associate; Imam ‘Amr Al-Fallas (rahimahullah) for some food as he had nothing to feed his household; who numbered close to forty!

When this illustrious Imam was asked to support the innovated view of the then leader regarding the Holy Quran, he refused. He was threatened that his monthly pension from the public treasury –which was a hundred silver coins-, would be withheld.

He responded by reciting the verse:

‘And in the sky is your sustenance and whatever you are promised’

(Surah: 51, Ayah: 22)

When he returned home, his family (who were nearly 40 in number) reproached him for this.

A few moments later, he heard a knock on the door. It was a person who seemed to be a hard labourer that had come to hand him a bag of one hundred silver coins saying:

‘O Abu ‘Uthman! May Allah preserve you like you preserved the din (religion).

I will be giving this to you every month.’

(Adabul ikhtilaf of Al-Muhaddith Shaykh Muhammad ‘Awwamah, pg.105)

 

Moral

Those who value their religion are actually valued by their creator.

Who forsakes his religion in any way, may be forsaken by his Creator when he needs Him the most…

History is filled with proofs for both of the above.

 

We ask Allah Ta’ala to save us from such trials, but in the event that they cannot be avoided, may He inspire us with the strength to withstand the temptations of this world, especially when it results in serious damage to our din.

Amin.

Al-Miftah

Wicked Sister in Law

Question:
Assalaamu ‘alaikum

I request advice regarding the relationship with my sister in law.

My sister in law doesn’t speak to me or sms me. She doesn’t keep in contact with me at all, until it suits her. I want to have a relationship with her like a sister, but she doesn’t bother with me at all. After speaking to her several times and begging her to please keep in contact with me so that we can have a good relationship she said straight, if she wants to she will.

My in laws support her too and feel she is not wrong in any way. All I’m asking is to be taken part of the family like a sister and to also be in contact with me like how she is with everyone else. She has time for boyfriends, cousins, friends, and whenever it comes to me, she says, “I’m busy.” Also I was sick and she didn’t even call or sms to find out about my health yet when she hurt herself, I put my broken heart aside and messaged her. It breaks my heart.
I have reached a point where I decided to also not bother with her anymore. Is this ok? I do my duty to greet her now and then to enquire how she is, but I feel it is not necessary for me to answer any further questions she asks me, because she doesn’t bother with me at all, until I contact her. Is it ok to not reply her then?
I am completely heartbroken and I don’t even feel like going to my in laws home anymore since I am treated like I am non-existent, until they decide to finally remember me. Do I really need to beg them to keep in contact?

It makes me wonder, that tomorrow if my in laws are no more, what relationship will my husband and I then have with his siblings, when this is the attitude they have towards me and my in laws don’t even feel it is wrong in any way?

Also is there any dua to pray to get my in laws and sister in law to open their hearts to me.
Jaza​kaallah

Answer:
Respected Sister

Wa ‘alaikumus salaam wa rahmatullahi wa barakaatuh

This world is full of challenges. However, it is a temporary abode. The real abode is the Hereafter. In this short life we need to make the maximum investments for the Hereafter.

While it is sad that your sister-in-law is treating you in this manner, turn this negative into your positive. You return her ill treatment with good treatment. Rasulullah (sallallahu ‘alaihi wasallam) is reported to have said: “Join ties with the one who severs relationship with you, give the one who has deprived you, and forgive the one who has oppressed you.” (Musnad Ahmad #17452)

In order to practise on this hadeeth, one will have to adopt good akhlaaq (character). In adopting good character one has to suppress one’s emotions. This takes a lot of courage. However, the reward for this is very great. Rasulullah (sallallahu ‘alaihi wasallam) is reported to have said: “There is nothing heavier on the scales of good deeds on the day of Qiyaamah than good character.” (Sunan Tirmizi #2002)

Despite your sister-in-law’s bad treatment, if you continue to maintain family ties, you will receive all the great rewards for this. Among the rewards are barkat (blessings) in life and barkat in wealth. Insha-Allah, you will see all of this. The only condition is that you must remain steadfast and persevere – for the sake of Allah Ta‘ala alone.

You do not have to keep any close relationship, in the sense that you are daily calling or smsing etc. You may call her occasionally, visit your in-laws as is reasonably expected, be cordial and pleasant when you meet her (as if there is no problem, even though from within you are suppressing your feelings) and occasionally give her some small gift.

In all these actions the intention must be to please Allah Ta‘ala. Do not focus on her very poor and unbecoming conduct. Focus on what you have to do. Also, regularly take her name and make du‘aa for her. Insha-Allah this will impact positively on her.

Please read this du‘aa and booklet. Insha-Allah you will benefit greatly.

Answered by:
Uswatul Muslimah Panel of ‘Ulama

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My Quraan Cover

Ask our children:
1. If there are poor people around us, how should we treat them?
2. If we really want something, who should we turn to?

Now tell them the story:

Tasmiyah was an intelligent little girl who loved going to madrasah. She was in grade three and her favourite subject was Quraan. She loved reading the Quraan and she was a good reciter as well. Everything was so cheerful and joyful in her life. However there was only one thing that made her sad – her Quraan had no cover on it. She really wanted to cover it. In fact it was the only thing she wished for. Tasmiyah’s mother tried very hard to save up in order to buy one, but it was so hard to do so with the small income that came into the home. Tasmiyah had lost her father a few days after she was born. He was a passionate lover of the Quraan and passed away whilst reciting the Quraan. He left the world, but his passion for the Quraan continued to live in the heart of his one and only daughter, Tasmiyah.

One day in madrasah, when all the children went out for the break, Tasmiyah decided to remain in the classroom. As she sat in her place and read her Quraan, her eyes suddenly fell on Shaakirah’s Quraan cover. It was a very simple, yet a beautiful cover. Tasmiyah’s desire to have a Quraan cover of her own now only increased. She could not hold herself back anymore. So she got up from her place and walked towards Shaakirah’s place. As she came closer, the cover just seemed to look more and more beautiful. She could not resist. She stretched out her little hand and with her soft finger tips felt the fabric of the Quraan cover. Just then Shaakirah walked in, and with eyes burning in anger she shouted out, “How dare you touch my Quraan cover with your dirty and oily hands!” What Shaakirah did not know was that Tasmiyah did not eat any lunch during the break that day. There was absolutely no food in the home that morning. Tasmiyah was all shaken up in fear and just stood there in silence. This made Shaakirah even more angry and she continued to shout at Tasmiyah until she asked Tasmiyah that one heart breaking question, “Why don’t you ask your father to buy your own Quraan cover?” Just then the rest of the children came back to the class. Tasmiyah went quietly and sat in her place. By now her heart was bursting inside with tears and her stomach was empty of even a morsel of food. But she was a strong girl. She told no one and complained to no one.

That night as she lay down beside her mother, she asked, “Mother! Did father have to leave us so quickly and with nothing to live on?” The mother tried to explain to Tasmiyah, “My dear daughter, everything happens according to the beautiful plan of Allah. Allah tests some people by giving them everything they desire and others by not fulfilling any of their desires. In this temporary world we should remain thankful and patient and never lose hope in Allah.”

Tasmiyah innocently interrupted, “Mummy! I fully understand and I do accept, but mummy please don’t forget, do ask Allah to please give me my own Quraan cover.” A few tears rolled down their eyes, as both mother and daughter fell off to sleep. The very next morning, there was a surprise visitor at the door. It was Shaakirah’s mother. She learned of what happened in class the previous day. So she sewed the most beautiful Quraan cover specially for little Tasmiyah. Tasmiyah’s face lit up and she immediately remarked, “Mummy! I knew Allah Ta‘ala will answer our du‘aa. But right now Allah Ta‘ala is testing me as to what I am going to do after He has fulfilled my desire.”

Lessons:

1. There is wisdom and goodness in everything that Allah Ta‘ala does for us. We need to be grateful, patient and not lose hope in the perfect planning of Allah Ta‘ala.

2. We must think carefully before we say or do anything with regard to others. We have no idea how a careless, seemingly innocent remark or action may break a poor person’s heart. We should always put ourselves first in the next person’s shoes and ask, “How would I feel in his/her place if the same treatment was given to me???”

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Worker’s Rights In Islam

We need to acknowledge the immeasurable contribution of ‘labour’ to the smooth functioning and prosperity of society; and we also need to pay tribute to the dignity and human worth of the ‘labourer’.

As Muslims we need to look at how we fare as a society in the treatment of our workers. Islam spread to every corner of the globe because of the conduct that Muslims displayed. People were naturally attracted to Islam because of their close association and interaction with Muslims. We need to ask ourselves why do individuals who see how we pray, fast, live, etc., … individuals who have virtually become part of the family still do not find reason to accept Islam.

Are we perhaps falling short in displaying justice, compassion and kindness in our dealings with them? Is our conduct turning them away from Islam?

Domestic Employees:

The manner in which we address our domestics helps to develop their self-worth and confidence. It is improper to address them as “Boy” or “Girl.” It is even more repugnant when the “Boy” or “Girl” is as old as our mothers or fathers.

The Holy Qur’an states: “And neither shall you defame one another nor insult one another by offensive names; evil is a name implying wickedness after one has attained to faith.” (49:11)

The Holy Qur’an states: “O you who believe! Spend on others out of the good things that you may have acquired, and out of that which We bring forth for you from the earth; and choose not for your spending the bad things, which you yourselves would not accept without averting your eyes in disdain. And know that Allah is self-sufficient, ever to be praised.” (2:267)

Muslims are cautioned not to offer as charity things that they themselves would not like to receive. We need to guard against offering ‘inferior acts of kindness’ as tokens of appreciation and gratitude.

Mua’dhins:

Our Mua’dhins are perhaps one of the most underrated people in our societies. They often work seven days a week, 365 days a year, and are in some instances are housed in squalid conditions and paid meagre salaries. In some Masaajid, every Musalli feels that he has the right to instruct the Mua’dhin.

The Holy Qur’an states: “And who is better in speech than one who calls to Allah and does righteous deeds and says: “I am of those who submit.” (41:33) The Mua’dhin has a very noble and honoured status in the sight of Allah. He proclaims the greatness of Allah five times a day; he has the honour of caring for the House of Allah! Nabi SallAllahu ‘alayhi wasallam has said: “The Mua’dhins will be the proudest of people on the Day of Qiyâmah.” (Muslim)

Imaams/Maktab Teachers/Apas/Muallimahs

Our Imaams and Teachers have dedicated their lives to fulfilling the mission of Nabi SallAllahu ‘alayhi wasallam. They are regarded as the best of people by virtue of the vocation they pursue. Nabi SallAllahu ‘alayhi wasallam has said: “The best of you are those who learn the Qur’an and teach it.” Do we really hold them in esteem? Does our attitude reflect a sense of respect and admiration? Nabi SallAllahu ‘alayhi wasallam has said: “Verily from among the signs of the final hour are that the congregation will push each other forward since they will not find an Imaam who will lead them in prayer.” (Ahmad)

Imaams from foreign countries and black ethnicityare subjected to some of the worst forms of exploitation. We have reports of Black Ulama being offered wages as Imaams of R800.00 a month excluding accommodation. We are prepared the spend millions on Masjids but we offer a pittance to those who serve the Masjid. This is a sad indictment against us.

Fundamental Principle

The Holy Qur’an states: “O You who believe, do not consume your property among yourselves wrongfully, but let there be trade by mutual consent, and do not kill yourselves…” (4:29-30)

Believers are cautioned against exploitation of any kind, even if the other person being the weaker party agrees to such a deprivation or exploitation under the stress of circumstances. “Do not kill yourselves” refers to the eventual outcome of exploitation – It perpetuates a cycle of hatred, and anger, which will eventually rebound on the oppressors themselves. Exploitation of any kind is tantamount to self-destruction.

Mutual consent is the fundamental principle that forms the basis of employer/employee relations. This mutual consent has to take the form of an agreement or contract. The provisions of the contract must be based on justice, and compassion.

The contract from an Islamic perspective must include among other things:

Description of the type of workPlace of workDuration of contractRemunerationOrdinary hours and days of workDignity of the Employees

“(They are) Your brethren whom Allah has placed in your custody. Let him who has been made custodian of his brother by Allah feed him from what he himself eats, clothe him out of what he clothes himself, and impose not on him work that will overcome him…” (Bukhârî & Muslim)

Although this tradition primarily refers to the treatment of slaves, it nevertheless contains some very pertinent directives for employers. Your employees are your human brothers who deserve to be treated with dignity and respect. Pay them enough so that they are able to maintain themselves with dignity. Do not impose on them so much work, or so long working hours that may be overbearing.

Treat them, as you yourself would like to be treated.

May Allah Ta’ala give us the ability to mirror the teachings of our Deen in all our activities. Ameen.

Fatwa Department
Jamiatul Ulama (KZN) 
Council of Muslim Theologians

5 Common Discipline Mistakes Parents Make

We can all probably spurt out a list of mistakes our parents made with us when we were young. For some reason, faults are often more memorable and vivid than the numerous sacrifices our parents made for us.

Even though as parents we will make mistakes now and then when raising our children, it’s helpful to know which mistakes we should try to avoid when trying to raise them up to be good Muslims. Here are 5 discipline mistakes to avoid when directing your child toward proper behavior.

1.   Getting enraged when disciplining.

One of the biggest mistakes parents make when disciplining their children is getting enraged when correcting them. Expressing your rage when disciplining your child is problematic for several reasons. First, it directs your child’s attention away from his mistake and causes him to focus on your wrath, instead. The object of discipline is to guide your child toward proper behavior for both the short term as well as long term. If your child is more worried about how you will react in your anger rather than what he did that was wrong, he is unlikely to benefit from you counsel or choice of discipline. Rather, he will become irritated himself and resentful. This doesn’t mean the child won’t comply in the short term. To the contrary, many children respond to an angry parent. What it does mean is that the lesson you are trying to teach may not sink in.  It might even get lost completely depending on the extent of the anger shown. When disciplining, you want your child to behave not only immediately, but even when you’re not around, as well. Responding to your child’s misbehavior with shouting and aggression does not help him learn to self-manage his behavior. It merely teaches him how to respond to you when you’re angry.

The second problem with expressing anger when correcting your child is that it provides the opportunity to be excessive when punishing. This can lead to abusing your child. Often times when a parent is angry, she vents the anger onto her child. She does this by using hurtful words or by correcting with excessive and harsh smacking. To effectively discipline your child, try your best to avoid correcting them when angry.

According to hadith, The Prophet (Sallallaahu Alaihi WaSalaam) has said: Whoso suppresses his rage, while he has the power to show himself, Allah will call on him on the day of resurrection before all creation, and reward him exceedingly. (Tirmidhi)

2.   Comparing Children

One of the least effective ways of achieving compliance from your child is by comparing him to his brother or sister. “Muhammad always does his homework, why don’t you ever do yours, Jamal?”

The problem with comparing your children is that rather than causing the child to want to comply, it makes him resentful of the other child and you. Sibling rivalry is common between children. There are many factors which contribute to such quarrelsome behavior. Comparing children to one another can accelerate disagreements between siblings, which only contributes to additional discipline problems in the household.

Instead of comparing children, a better method would be to reward and complement the child when he performs as desired. This is more likely to cause the child to repeat the desirable behavior.

3.   Do as I say not as I do.

Demanding of your children what you do not do yourself is bound to result in failure. Parents are their children’s first role models. Even older children, who model after their peers, continue to look up to their parents for exemplar behavior. “If Mom isn’t making Fajr regularly, why does she expect me to make salat on time?” your child might ponder.  Being a parent is an enormous responsibility. An important part of parenting is being the type of person that you encourage your child to become.

Of course no parent is flawless. And this is OK. In fact, periods of failure can be a learning experience for your child. Let your child see you take responsibility for your errors—apologize to others in your family when you know you’ve treated them improperly. This will give your child an example of the proper way to correct his mistakes with family and friends.

4.   Not respecting your child

As Muslims, we have an engrained understanding that children should obey their parents. Allah tells us in Quran about being kind to our parents. The Prophet Muhammad  (Sallallaahu Alaihi WaSalaam) has instructed us to be especially kind to our mother. A child who is not respectful to his parents is certainly behaving in a way that is contrary to our religion.

But not only should children be obedient and kind to their parents, . . parents should also be kind to their children. The Prophet (Sallallaahu Alaihi WaSalaam) has said: ”He is not of us who does not have mercy on young children, nor honor the elderly.” (Tirmidhi)

When interacting with our children and even when correcting them, we should remember to be gentle and kind with them. People are more inclined to pleasing those they have a positive relationship with. Speaking in a calm, respectful tone to your child does not convey a sign of weakness. To the contrary, it let’s them know that you are indeed in control—not only of the situation but also your emotions.

5.   Expecting perfection

Often, when we catch our child misbehaving, we wonder why he’s acting in such an unpleasant way. We must remember that none of us is perfect. We aren’t, and neither are our children. It can be helpful to remember that we want Allah Ta’ala to be merciful and patient with us when we make mistakes. We should try to enact these same virtues when managing our children. When we accept the fact that our children will err and disappoint us at times, this helps us accept them as fallible humans and not view them as simply bad children. We are here to guide our children to be God fearing Muslims, but they have their own mind, desires, and temperament–it’s not easy to avoid sneaking into the cookie jar for one more of Mom’s delicious chocolate chip cookies.

Patience should be our motto when disciplining our children. This will help us accept those disappointing times when our children don’t live up to our expectations. It will also help us become a more superior parent to help us avoid the 5 common discipline mistakes parents make.

Author : Grandma Jeddah

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